During the recent months, Start Strong teens have dedicated a great deal of time toward uncovering safe and healthy ways to end relationships. Breaking up is never easy, and it can also be one of the most volatile and potentially dangerous points in a relationship. Break ups are however, something most everyone will go through at some point in their lives. In an effort to help her peers work through this difficult and often painful experience, Start Strong Bridgeport teen, Julie Bartoli, decided to share her experience ending a recent relationship and some rules she hopes will help ease the process for others who have recently broken up. 

Breaking Up

By: Julie Bartoli

My boyfriend of nearly two years and I recently broke up. Naturally, I was devastated. But with the help of some friends and unsolicited advice from fellow singletons, I learned how to move past it.

Rule 1: Get involved. The best way to forget someone is to keep yourself busy. Join clubs, hang out with friends, enjoy your time alone and figure out what you love doing.

Rule 2: Do not call them. Your ex is officially off limits. If they want to talk they will make an effort to find you, but making a phone call or passing them a note in the middle of class will leave you looking needy and oversensitive.

Rule 3: Don’t get involved with someone else too quickly. The biggest mistake someone newly single could make would be to walk into a new relationship without healing and moving past the last one.

And, of course, Rule 4: Remember why you broke up. Don’t just reminisce in the good times. Look at what ended your relationship. You deserve the best, and if you weren’t getting that from your previous boyfriend/girlfriend, then it’s good that the relationship is over. There’s no need to look back, only forward.

Thanks for sharing Julie!

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